Understanding or knowing about oneself is one important aspect of life that a lot of persons do not pay attention to. Have you ever bothered to ask yourself why you are good at some things and terrible at other things? Have you ever bothered to know your strengths and weaknesses? Have you wondered why you cannot do what others are doing? Why you cannot eat what others are eating? Why you cannot go to places others are going?
The answer lies within the context of “knowing one’s self”, understanding your niche and success/failure zone. It is a concept of understanding who you are as a person and what makes you different from other persons. It is a cognitive or descriptive component of one’s self as well the extent to which knowledge gained is consistently applied to one’s attitude and disposition. This further stress that understanding yourself is an attempt to know what you can do, how good you are at it, and how to improve it. It is way beyond feelings or illusions of what or who you suppose to be. It brings you to the reality of who you are going by what you have done in the past.
Whether you are a business minded or career minded person, necessity is upon you to know first who you are and the most convenient environment you can thrive. That why, it is not always good to assume that everyone were meant to be CEOs or MDs, and the fact that they cannot attain those positions in life make them a failure. Others were meant to be the driving force to get any task assigned completed. Also, in the choice of an academic discipline or career path, it is proper you know which field of study suits your person and most importantly what makes you happy.
Studies have shown a few steps in which an individual can understand his or herself better.
- Evaluate your strengths and weaknesses: You can come to a better understanding of who you are and what is most important to you by thinking about your strengths and weaknesses. Importantly, you will want to compare your perception with your strengths and weaknesses to the strengths and weaknesses identified by your friends, family, and co-workers. This will make you understand if you possess some attributes of strengths like; decisiveness, self-discipline, thoughtfulness, determination, patience, diplomacy, communication skills, and creativity, including areas of weaknesses like quick temperament, close-mindedness, self-centeredness and discriminating.
- Be honest with yourself: Most times we like to think that we are always right in everything we do, therefore warding off any form of correction from others. We lie to ourselves a lot more than we’d like to think about sometimes. The issues of lying to one’s self have resulted in most persons being laggards while other are pulling giant strides. Hiding from the real reason behind our motives doesn’t help us change and develop into better people. Remember: there’s no point in lying to yourself. Even if you discover truths about yourself that you really don’t like, this only gives you the opportunity to take those problems head on instead of just pretending like they don’t exist.
- Check yourself when you experience strong emotions: Sometimes, you will find yourself getting really angry, sad, happy, or excited. Understanding what sets off these stronger-than-normal reactions, what their root cause is, can help you understand yourself better. It will help you to know what makes you happy or perplex at each moments of your life.
- Examine your priorities: If your house were burning down, what would you do? What would you save? It’s amazing how fire outbreak or any life threatening occurrence exposes our priorities. What you think is most important in life and in your day-to-day interactions can tell you a lot about yourself. Some examples of priorities that people often have include: money, family, sex, respect, security, stability, material possessions, and comfort. Compare your priorities with that of people you respect, and think about what your conclusions say about you..
- Take cognizance of how and when you talk about yourself: Do you turn every conversation you have into a conversation about yourself? Do you make jokes at your own expense whenever you talk about yourself? How and when you talk about yourself can reveal a lot about how you think and how you perceive yourself. It’s healthy to talk about yourself sometimes and it’s good to realize that you can’t do everything, but you should pay attention to extremes and think about why you go to those extremes.
In getting to know yourself better you can also consider the categories of persons you love spending time with. Like it is “like poles attract, unlike poles repel”. By so doing you understand who you really are and what you hope to become.